Penn Badgley Gave Rare Insight Into His Family Life As He Recalled Initially Struggling To Bond With His 15-Year-Old Stepson

“I have an interesting situation where I have a biological son and a stepson. And my stepson is — his father is very much in his life, so his father is his father, and I’m something else.”

Penn Badgley is getting candid about parenthood.

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For those who don't know, Penn married Domino Kirke in 2017, and three years later, they welcomed their first child together: a baby boy named James.

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Domino also has a 15-year-old son, Cassius, with her ex Morgan O'Kane, and in a new interview, Penn opened up about his "different" roles as a dad and a stepdad.

Appearing on the New York Times' Modern Love podcast, Penn said, "I have an interesting situation where I have a biological son and a stepson. And my stepson is — his father is very much in his life, so his father is his father, and I'm something else."

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"So I have two different kinds of parental roles," he explained, highlighting the 12-year age gap between the boys.

Penn then touched on the importance of showing his son “vulnerability” as he gets older.

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"My biological son is only 3½. So that's a very different thing too. I need to be able to more consciously show him my vulnerability as he gets older in those years," he shared.

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And Penn later went on to address his relationship with Cassius.

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Penn admitted that he initially struggled to bond with Cassius, noting that being a teenager, he "doesn't want to spend that much time with us anyway." However, he recalled how watching the 2014 sci-fi/action film Edge of Tomorrow changed things one night.

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"I just knew it was important," Penn said of his decision to watch the Tom Cruise film with Cassius. "It was like the stars had aligned so that my wife and my youngest son were asleep, and I was just like, 'This is a good time to do this! You're not going to play video games now. We're going to do this!'"

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Adding that Cassius "loved" the movie night, Penn said, "You want to talk about modern love? One of the ways you gotta do that is watch things with people."

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You can listen to Penn's full comments on the Modern Love podcast here.

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