Parents Are Facing The "Nightmare" Choice To Send Their Kids To School After Another Mass Shooting

"You just gotta say goodbye and hope you'll get the chance to say hello again."

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A woman reacts outside the SSGT Willie de Leon Civic Center, where students had been transported from Robb Elementary School after a shooting, in Uvalde, Texas, on May 24, 2022.

Images of the frantic parents of students at Robb Elementary in Uvalde, Texas, screaming and crying as they waited to hear if their children were alive or dead after the mass shooting that killed 19 children and 2 adults, flooded social media on Tuesday.

The next day, parents across the country prepared to take their kids to school.

"You just gotta say goodbye and hope you'll get the chance to say hello again," Chris O'Connell, a local news reporter based in Austin, told BuzzFeed News. "School should be the most safe place in the world for our kids. And it's unfortunately not."

O'Connell, who has elementary-age children, said he and his wife discussed not taking their kids to school today, but ultimately decided they should. Like the kids of Robb Elementary, it's the end of the school year for them — the fun-but-important final days before summer.

These kids were going to start their summer vacations this week. They likely went to school today for end-of-year fun things, usually the case for elementary kids. They had entire lives to live this summer + beyond. I can’t even imagine how their families are feeling right now.

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"Once school started up again [after COVID-19 closures], it was easier for us to work and fun for the kids to go. They love learning and being with friends," O'Connell said. "But right now, I can't wait till I can make sure they're safe with me. ... The idea that you, at any moment, might not know if your child is alive or dead is a nightmare for any parent."

Ryan, who declined to give her last name, wrote in a tweet that the "only good thing" about COVID-19 was that for two years, "we didn't have to worry if our kids were going to come home from school." Her child, now 20, is studying to be an early education teacher.

The only good thing about covid was for the last 2 years, we didn’t have to worry if our kids were going to come home from school.

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"My daughter grew up doing active shooter drills in school, and it's terrifying that she might one day have to shield her students from bullets," she told BuzzFeed News, noting that she lives in a state with some of the strictest gun laws and lowest gun death rates.

"The 'greatest country in the world' is the biggest lie that's ever been told," Ryan said. "We are just barely mediocre."

Other parents shared their struggle to part ways with their kids, knowing the mass shooting in Uvalde, Texas, is far from the first deadly attack on young children at school.

"I dropped off my 5 year old and as I hugged her, [I thought] could this be the last time?" Twitter user @yellowdart wrote.

Hardest thing I ever did was send my baby to school today.

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Thinking about keeping my kids home from school tmw, maybe the rest of the week. I'm heartbroken. Nobody gonna protect them better than me.

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Thinking about making my kids stay home from school rest of year. What you think? I’m freaking out

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My 5-year-old, who loves animals and books and the Beatles and Mickey Mouse and his grandparents. My beautiful 5-year-old boy, who doesn’t even know what a gun is. Today I had to drop him off and pretend like everything was fine. Inside I was screaming. Nothing is fine.

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At drop off, parents (more today than I’ve seen all year) spent a few more beats than normal hugging their kids.

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"Best part of my day is picking my kid up from school, it should be the most basic guaranteed joy, cannot fathom the grief and rage, this country is so cruel and lost," author Lucas Mann wrote on Twitter.

A mom called our show this morning and explained that she couldn’t let her 9 year old daughter buy the light up sneakers she wanted because she didn’t want her to be a target for a shooter at school. These are the concerns of parents in the USA in 2022.

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For parents, the joy of picking their kids up from school has dissolved into the only relief for their unthinkable anxieties.

"I know instinctively my kids are probably OK, but the idea of not knowing is the scariest thing," O'Connell told BuzzFeed News.

Heartbroken parents shared how the fear of "not knowing" about their kids' safety at any given time felt like "too much risk."

Kept our kids home from school today. Just like, there's 2 days left of school and those days now feel like too much risk.

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I kept my kids home from school today. I just couldn't send them.

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"My heart aches for the people in Uvalde. I know that nothing will make those parents feel any better about what happened, but the only way that anything will change is if these politicians actually do something about the epidemic of gun violence," O'Connell told BuzzFeed News. "It's depressing that this has become so common. People should be outraged. I hope something changes."

Ryan said it seemed "the only thing politicians are willing to do is offer thoughts and prayers," but even that seems disingenuous.

"We watched Republican step over the corpses of 5-year-old children at Sandy Hook so they could cash their NRA checks," she said. "Politicians love talking about their Second Amendment right to bear arms, but what about the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness for the 19 kids murdered in Texas?"

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