14 Myths About Sex That Need To Be Debunked Immediately

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By
Alex Kasprak
by Alex Kasprak

BuzzFeed Staff

and
Kirsten King
by Kirsten King

BuzzFeed Staff

This is Helen Fisher, the chief science adviser for Match.com and an anthropologist who specializes in ~love~.

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Every year, Helen Fisher, Ph.D., conducts a comprehensive study of singles' attitudes toward dating and sex that surveys over 5,000 Americans. The people surveyed are NOT Match.com members but are representative of the U.S. population at large. "We queried a representative sample of blacks, whites, Asians and Latinos, young and older, and gays, lesbians and straights from every part of the country and every walk of life," she told BuzzFeed Science.

"As we take the pulse of the modern American," Fisher said, "Match.com can find these single men and women better dates and I can get a truly granular understanding of love, sex and commitment. " The data reveal a number of myths about dating, love, and sex. Here are some myths about sex that could use some debunking:

1. Myth: Singles judge a potential partner first by their body.

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Reality: Singles actually judge a potential date first by their grammar (88% of women; 75% of men), their self-confidence (84% of women; 69% of men), and their teeth (81% of women; 67% of men).

2. Myth: Women are turned on by sexy photos of a partner.

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Reality: 77% of women do not want to receive a sext from a date, and 48% don't want to get ANY kind of selfie from a man. Take note, dick pic peeps!

3. Myth: Singles keep sexy texts they receive to themselves.

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Reality: ~25% of singles (both men and women) have shared a sexy photo they received with other people.

4. Myth: Men aren’t interested in promiscuous women.

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Reality: 76% of single men would be comfortable dating someone who has had more sexual partners than themselves.

5. Myth: Singles have a lot of one-night stands.

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Reality: 43% of singles (34% of men, 50% of women) have never had a one-night stand.

6. Myth: The biggest sexual turn-on is being attractive.

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Reality: ~98% of singles (both men and women) think that sexual confidence is the biggest turn-on in the bedroom.

7. Myth: Men want to have sex every day.

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Reality: Only 19% of singles (24% of men, 16% of women) would ideally want to have sex at least daily with a familiar partner, and ~35% of singles (both men and women) would ideally want to have sex 2-3 times a week with a familiar partner.

8. Myth: Blondes have more fun…in bed.

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Reality: Single women with red hair have the most orgasms (41%), followed by women with gray hair (38%).

9. Myth: The younger you are, the more sex you’re having.

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Reality: Singles in their thirties had the most sex in 2014 out of any age group (58% had sex in 2014 versus 46% for singles overall).

10. Myth: Only women fake orgasms.

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Reality: 35% of single men have faked an orgasm.

11. Myth: Single men are players.

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Reality: Only 2% of single men said their attitude toward seeking a relationship was that they just wanted to date a lot of people.

12. Myth: Single men just want to please themselves in bed.

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Reality: Single men are more likely to find sexually satisfying their partner more important than sexually satisfying themselves.

13. Myth: Single men only want to date younger women.

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Reality: 39% of single men would get into a committed relationship with a woman 10 or more years older than themselves.

14. Myth: Far more men than women are interested in finding an attractive partner.

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Reality: 89% of singles (both men and women) say they "must have" or consider it "very important" to find a partner who is physically attractive to them.