Want to read more? Here are some other essays BuzzFeed published this week.
Lyz Lenz writes about growing up Evangelical and witnessing her church cover up everything from adultery to child sexual abuse — including the abuse that took place within her own family. Anna Dushime writes about her father, who died during the 1994 Rwanda genocide against the Tutsi. Instead of fixating on his death, Dushime remembers the five years she had with him.